Live from Emo Dojo
Live from Emo Dojo

Episode · 9 months ago

Negativity Bias and My New Low-Bad Diet

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

I talk about negativity bias in the book, “The Power of Bad,” my plans for a real-life Emo Dojo where people can bang on drums, and my new podcast, Firebrand. 

Hey, how are you it's johnny motions onthis episode of Emo Dojo, we're going to be talking about the negativity biasand all about my new low bad diet. We're also going to talk about my ideafor Emo Dojo in the real life and then lastly, I'll fill you in on anew podcast, I'm going to be doing while I'm waiting for the pandemic todissipate so staye Toim all that right now ontoday's Emod Ojo Man. ' Glad you made it back, I'm gladI'm. Here it's been a really wild six weeks or so in America around the world. So I wasjust kind of staying out of the way and checkingthings out, and you know I cin sure I didn't have to grab the guns and headfor the hills or anything everything's fine. So I've been reading a lot part of my work. I drive now fair amount and Ilike to read in general, have the kindl lap so between the kindle APP and theaudible thing listening to books on audio in the car, I get to consumequite a bit of bookage these days, so the one I've been into lately iscalled the power of bad and it's all about thit's kind of a accumulation and analysis of all typesof research about the negativity, bias super fascinating I've heard about thenegativity bias many times. I never really dug that deep into it, but theresearch very illustrative and t ey had...

...some cool fun like takeaways one of theweirder stories I thought, and just so typical was you know, there's a power infocusing on the bad versus of the good and back. I think it was. The Swiss armywell could have been the sweetest army. That's how that's how well I retaininformation. I like the story, but I can't quite get the details right soarmy over in those countries that start with an s back in the war. They forbade any of their soldiers fromhumming or whistling or singing a particular song from the country landunder penalty of death, because they feared that this song would cause an outbreak of nostalgialike what that's crazy, so they didn't yeah, apparently thinkin too much aboutthe past and in lieu of thinking positively aboutright now. Well, fuck you up in a war, so the the commanders are like nope, nosinging Nim, songs, crazy. What I really thought wasinteresting was so the essence of the book. The powerof bad is how powerful a bad thing really is relative to good things, andwhen you start to think about that from a mental health outlook, we remember so much of the bad withouthardly any of the good like, and I didn't really think about it. Muchbecause I did it, but I'm like Oh, I think I had a hard childhood and thenfactually. If I laid out what happened to me as a kid people say: Oh yeah,that's fucked up so nobody's arguing that that was hard. But what I'mtalking about is the parts. I remember because clearly my life wasn't all hard,I'm healthy, normal human right now right so I made itthrough life, so something must have...

...happened, and then I started thinkingabout that more and more, like yeah. Why do we bury the Good so many goodmemories with just a few bad and t, so they erevealed a bunch ofdifferent research studies and apparently scientists have come upwith numbers. So there is like a ratio apparently like even in a like relationship, therapist and scientistswho studye relationships, they even coined the term five fucks for a fight, five fucks forevery fight. Something like that. Basically, the idea is that, if you'rein a healthy relationship, you should be having sex five times for every onetime you get into a fight. If you get into a fight and you're not having sex five times in between the next fight,your ratios are fucked up and you should look into couples. Therapy butthen I started to think about like well. I mean when you think of the math ofthis. That means, if bad, is that much morepowerful than good. It's not enough to focus on the good we hact. We have toactually eliminate the bad, so I 'm going to start a low bad diet. That means no news, because the news ingeneral mass media is theyre like merchants of misery. Let's call itmerchants of misery right. They just want you to be divided and tohave to make a choice and everything is based on some false fear. They've setup false dilemma, so news is out that alone really bellows me out a lot then on social media I deleted thetwitter AP and I deleted the bookmarket didn't deletethe account. You know I usea the...

...account whenever whenever I need it,but for this experiment I have deletedtwitter AP and I have deleted the bookmark of my menues from all mydifferent devices. facebook was never really in Hissoe. I don't really go afacebook unless I want to communicate with, like my sixteen friends andfamily that I have there and then everything else is fairly easy. It evn need theoretically extens to moviesand music, and things like that that I consume that I let into my mind itextends to the people I hang around. If I'm around negative people, hi've gotto minimize that, if the make, if the negative people have to be in my life, for some reason,whether it's work related or friends and family, and things like that, thatmeans for everyone, negative interaction I have with that person.I've got to have five more good ones with at leastsomebody else in my sphere. That's both hard and easy right. Now I live alone, but that means I don't have any goodeither. So if something bad happens to me out in the courtyard or the mailmanor the garbage man or something, I don't have five there's no way to getfive good things layered. On top of the one bad thing that just happened to mewhen you live alone, so I have to be extra careful about the bad generally,so I'm going ont a lot bad diet and that's out so starting with the news,starting with the twitter things like that, get rid of those kinds of things, and you know I can only blame myselffot the way my twitter feet is because those are the people I followed, andthose are the things I liked and commented on over the years. So yourtwitter fee just becomes a reflection of you and I don't like the old me so I'llleave this- that twitter feed there, but I'll start a new one for my newpodcast project. That Wi'll tell you about in a minute but anyway, so all ofthis kind of goes back to just having more time to consume books,finding a book on negativity, bias,...

...called the power of bad and just blast them through it reallyquickly and like Whoa. It was was my numbing at first because I consumed itreally fast, but really powerful. So I would suggest you check that outwherever you buy your books and read up on it man, it might change life.Speaking of changing your life or changing my life or whatever, I'm stillpretty much sold on the idea that that transcranial direct current stimulationdevice the lifted did something I think it worked. I'mnot saying did something bad. It did something good. I can't put my fingeron anything else in my life. That would explain why my thoughts have changed. I feellike the same person, I'm sure it sound like the same person. All thatpersonality hasn't changed my outlook, my perspective is changed and I'm notsure how or why things in life are slowly getting better, but do Iattribute that to the clearer focus or is it the other way around? Do Ijust feel better because things naturally got better, but I'm thinking I got clearer focus from the brainsapper that caused better things to happen in life. That make me feelbetter. You know mood wise, so part of thatclarity is, I thought of something I wanted todo. I'm not sure if you know, but I've been a drummer, since I was little likethree years old banging on drums love it like rhythm,is in me. I can't not tap or whatever, aside from my Adhd and Little AssBurger, I just tap all the time chronically. It's just what I do im. SoI channeled that into drums, vplayed big, shows small shows allkinds of music from punk rock to Christian de Country Tho Medal. Youname it. That said, I haven't played...

...much at all because of the pandemic,and the last couple of years have just been in situations where I was eithertoo busy to play the drums or just had no way to play the drums. But I thoughtabout Emo Dojo and what it could be. I want to make emo do jo into like. Have you seen those cumon come onwhatever reading studio places where you can take your kids, who don't knowhow to read catch them up that kind of place or you've seen them a music store,obviously where they have music lessons, but their main business is typically tosell the instrument so and then you've also seen like martial ardstojo thinking. What is it emo go joe? Idon't want to be a therapist. That's just not what I'm about I like playingthe drums. Some thinking, emo Dojo, should be a drum Dojo, where you gointo a big open room and along the perimeter of the room. are smallerrooms with individual drum sets in it, and you can go behind the glass and getinto your own little room and face the centere turn on the Mikes or off theMikes turn on the headphones or not? You can play to yourself or play to therhythm of the group together kind of use that as therapy in a sense, no rules, you just go there from. Youknow three to four three to thre: Thirty: whatever ain't just beat theshit out of some drums. If you want to learn, you just comemore frequently and you'll learn. It also reminds me of one of theseplaces. I saw in Los Angeles, where you can pay by the hour whyther the fifteenminutes or something like that to go in and just smash dishes things like thatglass and you bring a sledge hambranges is tear up stuff destruction room. Ithink they're called so that was a thing for a while back people justgetting their yayahs out. Well, I don't...

...know about you, but man. I can beat theshit out of some drums and they don't break like normal good drums. You don'teven have to have special drums. Regular good drums won't break. You canbreak ahead or a stick now and then, but that's cheap. You can beat the shitout of a drum and it's not going to fall apart, you're not going to destroythe drum itself, so it is so visibale and so just a such a powerful releaseto hit drums. I'm like that's it. I'm going to start a non profit find alittle space to rent, where I can do that same that little layout I justdescribed and put up a schedule put up some socialmedia, including all the social handles that I already have for this stuff, and s see how it works. We've got thelogo I'll use, emo Joe for the EMO Dojo only makes sense, plus it's pretty cute.It would look cool on a Tshirt or a Gee. We could have like little gees thatpeople could wear while they're playing drums in the drum Dojo, the EMO Dojofor drums, and, of course we would have cameras in there that shoot everythingout to the Internet. People can watch it and ultimately open emodojos indifferent cities around the world. Like it that's Althe, matic, mind works rightthere, adding that extra part. It's not just opening the one here in town andseeing how it works is like we want to dominate the wor all right. So that's it that's what I'mgoing to do, but I can't do much on that, except for get it started now. Soif you know of anybody that works at a music instrument company, let me knowso. I can start networking because I'm going to try to find a drummanufacturer to help maybe donate to my nonprofit. Of course, I have to startthe nonprofit first, which takes them money that I don't yet have and someskills with buraucracy that I lack we'll figure it all out. If you want tohelp or if you know somebody that could...

...help, please let me know, and that kind of seguays into the lastthing so between now and the time the covid diminishes. I can't really start a live action drumdojo right people just can't go in there, although it could be arranged,especially if they each have their own room and you keep it sanatized. ButAnyway, I don't want to risk it, because the the impression of people ina room together still is in people's mind, and so anyway, I have to wait. Sosince I want to use this channel for that stuff, I'm going to move over andstart another podcast about something else and let my twitter ha say use thisthing called tweet delite that all my tweets delete after a week. So I'mgoing to let that rest and let all those tweets just fade away, mainlybecause kids of the future emodojo drum circles, don't need to look back andsee my opinion on politics in two thousand and twenty right and then, ofcourse I will keep up this podcast channel with all the updates forEmodojo and what I will likely not be doing is winging and moaning about mymental health. Just because it's not part of my no bad diet or even my lowbad diet, focusing on the bad things that happen to me or the perceivedwrongs that have been done to me is not good thereforids bad in my mind. I know it's okay to process things, butto dwell on them. No, and I'm not going to put that out into the world. So Idon't want to trigger any kind of thing like that. For you to dwell on eitherso I'm not going to be posting any more kind of mental health like podcasts. Obviously you know me, and you know Ihave mental health problems-...

...challenges, let's call them disorders diseasees anyway. My whole point ind. My challenge inlife is to how do I do a normal thing and become known for a cool thing, notknown just because of my disability. That doesn't work for me so anyway, with this channel here, yeah,of course, we'll talk about building a nonprofit. I think that should be fun,well build a nonprofit. You can listen along like you have been, and Iappreciate you. It's think it might give us more structure something morestructured to listen to overtime, because the listeners I have like youguys have been here for a couple of years already and so instead of pinging Pong itaround like here in my random thought: Oh God, you can't even you don't evenknow how many podcast I've recorded that you just don't even hear so Ithink I've said that before, but there are so many and I think as a listener,it might be more enjoyable to hear it in a serial fashion like here something started nothing and become something sowe'll do that. Okay, I'm not sure what to do with the oldepisodes, though I might have to delete them because they're a little raw andgetting with my low bad diet. I'm not sure if I want to share that with theworld. It's not that I'm ashamed of it. I just don't want to trigger thosefeelings or start some kind of thing in a person's mind were like Oh yeah, theworld is fucked whatever, like you know, what let just drop it the world is whatwe see for sure. So I noticed a lot and what I do now. I notice a lot ofsimilarities with the Rock and role industry and, by extension, thepornography industry, because they kind of work the same music and porn, notexactly but there's a lot of similarities there. But I also foundout there's a lot of...

...business tactics, marketing tactics andthings from those industries that work well in the candibis industryas well. I started thinkn wait a second that sex drugs in rock and roll fuckinga so I'm, basically a marketing expert in sex drugs and rock and roll, and Ididn't even know it because it wasn't thinking straight, so I'm Puttin apodcast together called firebrand, and it's going to be all about using the proven methods from thecommunities of sex drugs and rock and roll to market anything any kind ofproject. Even your church, your church could use the proven methods from thosecommunities to further its goals and let alone any mom and pop start up.There's something here for everybody. So look for that. That's going to giveme something to do in a more traditional podcast fashionand it will open up the door for me to talk to people, particularly peoplethat I used to work within those businesses that can shed some light on thesetopics. Ind thinkit could be kind of fun and I think people will just get ablast out of it. Ts Gon to tetelating. You know headline, and you know why notso that's whatit's going to be I'm going to be doing firebrand for a bit. I will share it in places. You might beable to see if you're paying attention, but I'm not going to be blasting it outthrough this podcast feed, and I probably won't say much about it on anyof my like mental health socials. If you want to find out just you couneither send me an email, John at emoojocom, or if you hear this podcast anytimeinto February, just go to firebrand, showcom or firebrand tat show and Walait'll. Be there I'm primarily going to...

...market that show on Lengkin andclubhouse. That's it no place else, that's my experiment! So that's all I got for you. That wasactually quite a bit. I appreciate hearing me Rant, so we covered negativebias and the book called the power of bad go check that out and if you canhelp at all point me in the right direction to start a nonprofit for mydrum circle, the emo dojio in real life. I appreciate your input hit me up and in the meantime, next couple of weeks look for the firebrand podcast, that's going to be me, sharing my marketing experiences fromthe sex, drugs and rock and roll communities cool cool. I appreciate youhave a great rest o your day and now back to the wall.

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