Live from Emo Dojo
Live from Emo Dojo

Episode · 11 months ago

Negativity Bias and My New Low-Bad Diet

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

I talk about negativity bias in the book, “The Power of Bad,” my plans for a real-life Emo Dojo where people can bang on drums, and my new podcast, Firebrand. 

Hey, how are you? It'sjohnny emotions. On this episode of Emo Dojo we're going to be talking aboutthe negativity bias and all about my new low bad diet. We're also goingto talk about my idea for Emo Dojo in the real life and then,lastly, I'll fill you in on a new podcast I'm going to be doingwhile I'm waiting for the pandemic to dissipate. So stay tuned. All that rightnow on today's Emo Dojo. Man, I'm glad you made it back.I'm glad I'm here. It's been a really wild, mm six weeksor so in America, around the world, so I was just kind of stayingout of the way and checking things out and you know, I cansure I didn't have to grab the guns and head for the hills or anything. Everything's fine. So I've been reading a lot part of my work.I drive now fair amount and I like to read in general. I havethe kindle APP, so between the kindle APP and the audible thing listening tobooks on audio in the car, I get to consume quite a bit ofbookage these days. So the one I've been into lately is called the powerof bad and it's all about that's kind of a accumulation and analysis of alltypes of research about the negativity bias. Super Fascinating. I've heard about thenegativity bias many times and never really dug that deep into it, but theresearch very illustrative and they had some cool,...

...fun like takeaways. One of theweirder stories, I thought, and just so typical, was, youknow, there's a power in focusing on the bad versus at the good andback I think it was the Swiss army with could have been the Swedish army. That's how that's how well I retain information. I like the story,but I can't quite get the details right. So army over, and those countriesthat start with an S. back in the war, they forbade anyof their soldiers from humming or whistling or singing a particular song from the countryland, under penalty of death, because they feared that this song would causean outbreak of nostalgia and like what? That's crazy. So they didn't.Yeah, apparently, thinking too much about the past and in lieu of thinkingpositive typically about right now, will fuck you up at a war. Sothe commanders of like Nope, no, singing them songs crazy. What Ireally thought was interesting was so the essence of the book, the power ofbad, is how powerful bad thing really is relative to good things. Andwhen you start to think about that from a mental health outlook, we rememberso much of the bad without hardly any of the good. Like, andI didn't really think about it much because I did it, but I'm like, Oh, I think I had a hard childhood. And then factually,if I laid out what happened to me as a kid, people say,Oh, yeah, that's fucked up. So nobody's arguing that that was hard. But what I'm talking about is the parts I remember, because clearly mylife wasn't all hard. I'm healthy, normal human right now, right.So I made it through life, so...

...something must have happened. And thenI started thinking about that more and more, like yeah, why do we burythe Good, so many good memories, with just a few bad and that. So they revealed a bunch of different research studies and apparently scientists havecome up with numbers. So there is like a ray show. Apparently,like even in a like relations ship, therapists and scientists who study relationships.They even coined the term five fucks for a fight, five fucks for everyfight, something like that. Basically, the idea is that if you're ina healthy relationship, you should be having a sex five times for every onetime you get into a fight. If you get into a fight and you'renot having sex five times in between the next fight, your ratios are fuckedup and you should look into couples therapy. But then I started to think aboutlike well, and then, when you think of the math of this, that means if bad is that much more powerful than good, it's notenough to focus on the good. We Hack, we have to actually eliminatethe bad. So I'm going to start a low bad diet. That meansno news, because the news in general, mass media is they're like merchants ofmisery. Let's call it merchants of misery, right. They just wantyou to be divided and to have to make a choice and everything is basedon some false fear. They've set up false dilemma. So news is out. That alone really mellows me out a lot. Then on social media,I deleted the toy her APP and I deleted the bookmark. I didn't deletethe account. You know I use the...

...account whenever, whenever I need it, but for this experiment I have deleted the twitter APP and I have deletedthe bookmark on my menus from all my different devices. Facebook was never reallyan issue. I don't really go with facebook unless I want to communicate withlike my sixteen friends and family that I have there, and then everything elseis fairly easy. It even theoretically extends to movies and music and things likethat that I consume, that I let into my mind. It extends tothe people I hang around. If I'm around negative people, I've got tominimize that. If the make if the negative people have to be in mylife for some reason, whether it's work related or friends and family and thingslike that, that means for every one negative interaction I have with that person, I've got to have five more good ones with at least somebody else inmy sphere. That's both hard and easy. Right now I live alone, butthat means I don't have any good either. So if something bad happensto me out in the courtyard or the mailman or the garbage matter something,I don't have five there's no way to get five good things layered on topof the one bad thing that just happened to me when you live alone,so I have to be extra careful about the bad generally. So I'm goingon a little bad diet and that's out. So starting with the news, startedwith the twitter, things like that. Get rid of those kinds of things. And you know, I can only blame myself for the way mytwitter feed is, because those are the people I followed and those are thethings I liked and commented on over the years. So your twitter feed justbecomes a reflection of you, and I don't like the old me. SoI'll leave this that twitter feed there, but I'll start a new one formy new podcast project that I'll tell you about in a minute. But anyway. So all of this kind of goes back to just having more time toconsume books. Finding a book on negativity...

...bias, called the power of badand just blast them through it really quickly, like Whoa, who's. My numbingat first because I consumed it really fast, but really powerful. SoI would suggest you check that out wherever you buy your books and read upon it. Man, it might change life. Speaking of changing your lifeor changing my life or whatever, I'm still pretty much sold on the ideathat that transcranial directs current stimulation device, the lifted did something. I thinkit worked. I'm not saying this something bad. It did something good.I can't put my finger on anything else in my life that would explain whymy thoughts have changed. I feel like the same person. I'm sure itsound like the same person. All that personality hasn't changed my outlook. Myperspective is changed and I'm not sure how or why. Things in life orslowly getting better. But do I attribute that to the clearer focus, oris it the other way around? I just feel better because things naturally gotbetter? But I'm thinking I got clearer focus from the brains APP or thatcause better things to happen in life that make me feel better, you know, mood wise. So part of that clarity is I thought of something Iwanted to do. I'm not sure if you know, but I've been adrummer since I was little, like three years old, just banging on drums. Love it like rhythm is in me. I can't not tap or whatever.Aside from my adhd and little aspurger, I just tap all the time chronically. It's just what I do. I'm so I channeled that into drums. Of played big shows, small shows, all kinds of music, from punkrock to Christian to country to metal, you name it. That said,I haven't played much at all because...

...of the pandemic and the last coupleof years of just been in situations where I was either too busy to playthe drums or just had no way to play the drums. But I thoughtabout Emo Dojo and what it could be. I want to make Emo Dojo intolike have you seen those Kuman come on whatever reading studio places where youcan take your kids who don't know how to read, catch them up thatkind of place? or You've seen a music store, obviously where they havemusic lessons, but their main business is typically to sell the instrument. Soany then you've also seen like martial arts dojo. Thinking what is it EmoDojo? I don't want to be a therapist. That's just not what I'mabout. I like playing the drums some taking. EMO Dojo should be adrum dojo where you go into a big open room and along the perimeter ofthe room are smaller rooms with individual drum sets in it and you can gobehind the glass and get into your own little room and face the center.Turn on the mics or off the mics, turn on the headphones or not.You can play to yourself or play to the rhythm of the group together. Kind of use that as therapy in a sense. No rules. Youjust go there from, you know, three to four, three to thirtywhatever, and just beat the shit out of some drums. If you wantto learn, you just come more frequently and you'll learn. It also remindsme of one of these places I saw in Los Angeles where you can payby the hour, by the fifteen minutes or something like that to go inand just smash dishes, things like that, glass and you bring a sledgeham rangesis tear up stuff, destruction room, I think they're called. So thatwas a thing for a while back. People just getting their Yah Yahs out. Well, I don't know about...

...you, but man, I canbeat the shit out of some drums and they don't break like normal good drums. You don't even have to have special drums. Regular good drums won't break. You can break a head or a stick now and then, but that'scheap. You can beat the shit out of a drum and it's not goingto fall apart, you're not going to destroy the drum itself. So itis so visceral and so just up, such a powerful release to hit drums. I'm like, that's it. I'm going to start a nonprofit, finda little space to rent where I can do that same that little layout Ijust described and put up a schedule, put up some social media, includingall the social handles that I already have for this stuff, and see howit works. We've got the logo. I'll use emo Joe for the EMODojo. Only makes sense. Plus, it's pretty cute. It would lookcool on a t shirt or a gee. We could have like little gys thatpeople could wear while they're playing drums in the drum Dojo, that emoDojo for drums. And of course we would have cameras in there that shooteverything out to the Internet. People can watch it and ultimately open EMO DOJO'sin different cities around the world like it. That's how the manic mind works rightthere. Adding that extra part. It's not just opening the one herein town and seeing how it works, is like we want to dominate theworld, all right, so that's it. That's what I'm going to do,but I can't do much on that except for get it started now.So if you know of anybody that works at a music instrument company, letme know so I can start networking, because I'm going to try to finda drum manufacturer to help maybe donate to my nonprofit. Of course I haveto start the nonprofit first, which takes some money that I don't yet haveand some skills with pure rock receipt that I lack. Will figure it allout. If you want to help or...

...if you know somebody that could help, please let me know. And that kind of segues into the last thing. So between now and the time the covid diminishes, I can't really starta live action drum dojo right. People just can't go in there, althoughit could be arranged, especially if they each have their own room and youkeep it sanitized. But Anyway, I don't want to risk it because thethe impression of people in a room together still is in people's mind, andso anyway I have to wait. So since I want to use this channelfor that stuff, I'm going to move over and start another podcast about somethingelse and let my twitter hat say, use this thing called tweet, deletethat all my tweets delete after a week. So I'm going to let that restand let all those tweets just fade away, mainly because kids of thefuture emo Dojo drum circles don't need to look back and see my opinion onpolitics in two thousand and twenty right and then, of course, I willkeep up this podcast channel with all the updates for Emo Dojo, and whatI will likely not be doing is whinging and moaning about my mental health justbecause it's not part of my no bad diet or even my low bad diet. Focusing on the bad things that happen to me or the perceived wrongs thathave been done to me is not good. Therefore, it's bad in my mind. I know it's okay to process things, but to dwell on them, no, and I'm not going to put that out into the world.So I don't want to trigger any kind of thing like that for you todwell on either. So I'm not going to be posting any more kind ofmental health like podcasts. Obviously you know me and you know I have mentalhealth problems, challenges, let's call them...

...disorders, diseases. Anyway, mywhole point and my challenge in life is to how do I do a normalthing and become known for a cool thing, not known just because of my disability? That doesn't work for me. So anyway, with this channel here, yeah, of course we'll talk about building a nonprofit. I think thatshould be fun. Will Build a nonprofit. You can listen along like you havebeen, and I appreciate you. It's think it might give us morestruct something more structured to listen to overtime, because the listeners I have, likeyou guys, have been here for a couple of years already, andso instead of Ping Pong and around like here in my random thought, ofGod, you can't even you don't even know how many podcast I've recorded thatyou just don't even hear. So I think I've said that before, butthere are so many and I think as a listener, it might be moreenjoyable to hear it in a serial fashion, like here, something started nothing andbecome something. So we'll do that. Okay, I'm not sure what todo with the old episodes, though. I might have to delete them becausethey're a little raw and getting with my low bad diets. I'm notsure if I want to share that with the world. It's not that I'mashamed of it, I just don't want to trigger those feelings or start somekind of thing in the person's mind where like, Oh, yeah, theworld is fucked wherever, like, you know what, let'm just drop it. The world is what we see for sure. So I noticed a lot, and what I do now? I notice a lot of similarities with therock and roll industry and, by extension, the pornography industry, because is theykind of work the same. Music and porn not exactly, but there'sa lot of similarities there. But I also found out there's a lot ofbusiness tactics, marketing tactics and things from...

...those industries that work well in thecannabis industry as well. Let's start they wait a second. That sex,drugs and rock and roll fucking a so I'm basically a marketing expert insects,drugs and rock and roll and I didn't even know it because it wasn't thinkingstraight. So I'm putting a podcast together called firebrand and it's going to beall about using the proven methods from the communities of sex, drugs and rockand roll to market anything, any kind of project, even your church.Your church could use the proven methods from those communities to further its goals,and let alone any mom and pop start up. There's something here for everybody, so look for that. That's going to give me something to do ina more traditional podcast fashion and it will open up the door for me totalk to people, particularly people that I used to work with in those businessesthat can shed some lights on these topics. I think it could be kind offun and I think people will just get a blast out of it's gota titillating, you know, headline and you know why not. So that'swhat was going to be. I'm going to be doing fire brand for abit. I will share it in places you might be able to see ifyou're paying attention, but I'm not going to be blasting it out through thispodcast feed and I probably won't say much about it on any of my likemental health socials. If you want to find out just you could either sendme an email, John at Emo Dojocom, or if you hear this podcast anytimeinto February, just go to firebrand showcom or firebrand dot show, andwhat it'll be there. I'm primarily going...

...to market that show on Linkedin andclubhouse. That's it, no place else. That's my experiment. So that's allI got for you. That was actually quite a bit. I appreciatehearing me rant. So we covered negative bias and the book called the powerof bad go check that out and, if you can help at all,point me in the right direction to start a nonprofit for my drum circle,the emo Dojo in real life. I appreciate your input. Hit Me upand in the meantime, next couple of weeks look for the firebrand podcast.That's going to be me sharing my marketing experiences from the sex, drugs androck and roll communities. Cool, cool, I appreciate you. Have a greatrest to your day and now back to the wall.

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