Emo Dojo
Emo Dojo

Episode · 1 year ago

Negativity Bias and My New Low-Bad Diet

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

I talk about negativity bias in the book, “The Power of Bad,” my plans for a real-life Emo Dojo where people can bang on drums, and my new podcast, Firebrand. 

Hey, how are you? It's johnny emotions. On this episode of Emo Dojo we're going to be talking about the negativity bias and all about my new low bad diet. We're also going to talk about my idea for Emo Dojo in the real life and then, lastly, I'll fill you in on a new podcast I'm going to be doing while I'm waiting for the pandemic to dissipate. So stay tuned. All that right now on today's Emo Dojo. Man, I'm glad you made it back. I'm glad I'm here. It's been a really wild, mm six weeks or so in America, around the world, so I was just kind of staying out of the way and checking things out and you know, I can sure I didn't have to grab the guns and head for the hills or anything. Everything's fine. So I've been reading a lot part of my work. I drive now fair amount and I like to read in general. I have the kindle APP, so between the kindle APP and the audible thing listening to books on audio in the car, I get to consume quite a bit of bookage these days. So the one I've been into lately is called the power of bad and it's all about that's kind of a accumulation and analysis of all types of research about the negativity bias. Super Fascinating. I've heard about the negativity bias many times and never really dug that deep into it, but the research very illustrative and they had some cool,...

...fun like takeaways. One of the weirder stories, I thought, and just so typical, was, you know, there's a power in focusing on the bad versus at the good and back I think it was the Swiss army with could have been the Swedish army. That's how that's how well I retain information. I like the story, but I can't quite get the details right. So army over, and those countries that start with an S. back in the war, they forbade any of their soldiers from humming or whistling or singing a particular song from the country land, under penalty of death, because they feared that this song would cause an outbreak of nostalgia and like what? That's crazy. So they didn't. Yeah, apparently, thinking too much about the past and in lieu of thinking positive typically about right now, will fuck you up at a war. So the commanders of like Nope, no, singing them songs crazy. What I really thought was interesting was so the essence of the book, the power of bad, is how powerful bad thing really is relative to good things. And when you start to think about that from a mental health outlook, we remember so much of the bad without hardly any of the good. Like, and I didn't really think about it much because I did it, but I'm like, Oh, I think I had a hard childhood. And then factually, if I laid out what happened to me as a kid, people say, Oh, yeah, that's fucked up. So nobody's arguing that that was hard. But what I'm talking about is the parts I remember, because clearly my life wasn't all hard. I'm healthy, normal human right now, right. So I made it through life, so...

...something must have happened. And then I started thinking about that more and more, like yeah, why do we bury the Good, so many good memories, with just a few bad and that. So they revealed a bunch of different research studies and apparently scientists have come up with numbers. So there is like a ray show. Apparently, like even in a like relations ship, therapists and scientists who study relationships. They even coined the term five fucks for a fight, five fucks for every fight, something like that. Basically, the idea is that if you're in a healthy relationship, you should be having a sex five times for every one time you get into a fight. If you get into a fight and you're not having sex five times in between the next fight, your ratios are fucked up and you should look into couples therapy. But then I started to think about like well, and then, when you think of the math of this, that means if bad is that much more powerful than good, it's not enough to focus on the good. We Hack, we have to actually eliminate the bad. So I'm going to start a low bad diet. That means no news, because the news in general, mass media is they're like merchants of misery. Let's call it merchants of misery, right. They just want you to be divided and to have to make a choice and everything is based on some false fear. They've set up false dilemma. So news is out. That alone really mellows me out a lot. Then on social media, I deleted the toy her APP and I deleted the bookmark. I didn't delete the account. You know I use the...

...account whenever, whenever I need it, but for this experiment I have deleted the twitter APP and I have deleted the bookmark on my menus from all my different devices. Facebook was never really an issue. I don't really go with facebook unless I want to communicate with like my sixteen friends and family that I have there, and then everything else is fairly easy. It even theoretically extends to movies and music and things like that that I consume, that I let into my mind. It extends to the people I hang around. If I'm around negative people, I've got to minimize that. If the make if the negative people have to be in my life for some reason, whether it's work related or friends and family and things like that, that means for every one negative interaction I have with that person, I've got to have five more good ones with at least somebody else in my sphere. That's both hard and easy. Right now I live alone, but that means I don't have any good either. So if something bad happens to me out in the courtyard or the mailman or the garbage matter something, I don't have five there's no way to get five good things layered on top of the one bad thing that just happened to me when you live alone, so I have to be extra careful about the bad generally. So I'm going on a little bad diet and that's out. So starting with the news, started with the twitter, things like that. Get rid of those kinds of things. And you know, I can only blame myself for the way my twitter feed is, because those are the people I followed and those are the things I liked and commented on over the years. So your twitter feed just becomes a reflection of you, and I don't like the old me. So I'll leave this that twitter feed there, but I'll start a new one for my new podcast project that I'll tell you about in a minute. But anyway. So all of this kind of goes back to just having more time to consume books. Finding a book on negativity...

...bias, called the power of bad and just blast them through it really quickly, like Whoa, who's. My numbing at first because I consumed it really fast, but really powerful. So I would suggest you check that out wherever you buy your books and read up on it. Man, it might change life. Speaking of changing your life or changing my life or whatever, I'm still pretty much sold on the idea that that transcranial directs current stimulation device, the lifted did something. I think it worked. I'm not saying this something bad. It did something good. I can't put my finger on anything else in my life that would explain why my thoughts have changed. I feel like the same person. I'm sure it sound like the same person. All that personality hasn't changed my outlook. My perspective is changed and I'm not sure how or why. Things in life or slowly getting better. But do I attribute that to the clearer focus, or is it the other way around? I just feel better because things naturally got better? But I'm thinking I got clearer focus from the brains APP or that cause better things to happen in life that make me feel better, you know, mood wise. So part of that clarity is I thought of something I wanted to do. I'm not sure if you know, but I've been a drummer since I was little, like three years old, just banging on drums. Love it like rhythm is in me. I can't not tap or whatever. Aside from my adhd and little aspurger, I just tap all the time chronically. It's just what I do. I'm so I channeled that into drums. Of played big shows, small shows, all kinds of music, from punk rock to Christian to country to metal, you name it. That said, I haven't played much at all because...

...of the pandemic and the last couple of years of just been in situations where I was either too busy to play the drums or just had no way to play the drums. But I thought about Emo Dojo and what it could be. I want to make Emo Dojo into like have you seen those Kuman come on whatever reading studio places where you can take your kids who don't know how to read, catch them up that kind of place? or You've seen a music store, obviously where they have music lessons, but their main business is typically to sell the instrument. So any then you've also seen like martial arts dojo. Thinking what is it Emo Dojo? I don't want to be a therapist. That's just not what I'm about. I like playing the drums some taking. EMO Dojo should be a drum dojo where you go into a big open room and along the perimeter of the room are smaller rooms with individual drum sets in it and you can go behind the glass and get into your own little room and face the center. Turn on the mics or off the mics, turn on the headphones or not. You can play to yourself or play to the rhythm of the group together. Kind of use that as therapy in a sense. No rules. You just go there from, you know, three to four, three to thirty whatever, and just beat the shit out of some drums. If you want to learn, you just come more frequently and you'll learn. It also reminds me of one of these places I saw in Los Angeles where you can pay by the hour, by the fifteen minutes or something like that to go in and just smash dishes, things like that, glass and you bring a sledgeham ranges is tear up stuff, destruction room, I think they're called. So that was a thing for a while back. People just getting their Yah Yahs out. Well, I don't know about...

...you, but man, I can beat the shit out of some drums and they don't break like normal good drums. You don't even have to have special drums. Regular good drums won't break. You can break a head or a stick now and then, but that's cheap. You can beat the shit out of a drum and it's not going to fall apart, you're not going to destroy the drum itself. So it is so visceral and so just up, such a powerful release to hit drums. I'm like, that's it. I'm going to start a nonprofit, find a little space to rent where I can do that same that little layout I just described and put up a schedule, put up some social media, including all the social handles that I already have for this stuff, and see how it works. We've got the logo. I'll use emo Joe for the EMO Dojo. Only makes sense. Plus, it's pretty cute. It would look cool on a t shirt or a gee. We could have like little gys that people could wear while they're playing drums in the drum Dojo, that emo Dojo for drums. And of course we would have cameras in there that shoot everything out to the Internet. People can watch it and ultimately open EMO DOJO's in different cities around the world like it. That's how the manic mind works right there. Adding that extra part. It's not just opening the one here in town and seeing how it works, is like we want to dominate the world, all right, so that's it. That's what I'm going to do, but I can't do much on that except for get it started now. So if you know of anybody that works at a music instrument company, let me know so I can start networking, because I'm going to try to find a drum manufacturer to help maybe donate to my nonprofit. Of course I have to start the nonprofit first, which takes some money that I don't yet have and some skills with pure rock receipt that I lack. Will figure it all out. If you want to help or...

...if you know somebody that could help, please let me know. And that kind of segues into the last thing. So between now and the time the covid diminishes, I can't really start a live action drum dojo right. People just can't go in there, although it could be arranged, especially if they each have their own room and you keep it sanitized. But Anyway, I don't want to risk it because the the impression of people in a room together still is in people's mind, and so anyway I have to wait. So since I want to use this channel for that stuff, I'm going to move over and start another podcast about something else and let my twitter hat say, use this thing called tweet, delete that all my tweets delete after a week. So I'm going to let that rest and let all those tweets just fade away, mainly because kids of the future emo Dojo drum circles don't need to look back and see my opinion on politics in two thousand and twenty right and then, of course, I will keep up this podcast channel with all the updates for Emo Dojo, and what I will likely not be doing is whinging and moaning about my mental health just because it's not part of my no bad diet or even my low bad diet. Focusing on the bad things that happen to me or the perceived wrongs that have been done to me is not good. Therefore, it's bad in my mind. I know it's okay to process things, but to dwell on them, no, and I'm not going to put that out into the world. So I don't want to trigger any kind of thing like that for you to dwell on either. So I'm not going to be posting any more kind of mental health like podcasts. Obviously you know me and you know I have mental health problems, challenges, let's call them...

...disorders, diseases. Anyway, my whole point and my challenge in life is to how do I do a normal thing and become known for a cool thing, not known just because of my disability? That doesn't work for me. So anyway, with this channel here, yeah, of course we'll talk about building a nonprofit. I think that should be fun. Will Build a nonprofit. You can listen along like you have been, and I appreciate you. It's think it might give us more struct something more structured to listen to overtime, because the listeners I have, like you guys, have been here for a couple of years already, and so instead of Ping Pong and around like here in my random thought, of God, you can't even you don't even know how many podcast I've recorded that you just don't even hear. So I think I've said that before, but there are so many and I think as a listener, it might be more enjoyable to hear it in a serial fashion, like here, something started nothing and become something. So we'll do that. Okay, I'm not sure what to do with the old episodes, though. I might have to delete them because they're a little raw and getting with my low bad diets. I'm not sure if I want to share that with the world. It's not that I'm ashamed of it, I just don't want to trigger those feelings or start some kind of thing in the person's mind where like, Oh, yeah, the world is fucked wherever, like, you know what, let'm just drop it. The world is what we see for sure. So I noticed a lot, and what I do now? I notice a lot of similarities with the rock and roll industry and, by extension, the pornography industry, because is they kind of work the same. Music and porn not exactly, but there's a lot of similarities there. But I also found out there's a lot of business tactics, marketing tactics and things from...

...those industries that work well in the cannabis industry as well. Let's start they wait a second. That sex, drugs and rock and roll fucking a so I'm basically a marketing expert insects, drugs and rock and roll and I didn't even know it because it wasn't thinking straight. So I'm putting a podcast together called firebrand and it's going to be all about using the proven methods from the communities of sex, drugs and rock and roll to market anything, any kind of project, even your church. Your church could use the proven methods from those communities to further its goals, and let alone any mom and pop start up. There's something here for everybody, so look for that. That's going to give me something to do in a more traditional podcast fashion and it will open up the door for me to talk to people, particularly people that I used to work with in those businesses that can shed some lights on these topics. I think it could be kind of fun and I think people will just get a blast out of it's got a titillating, you know, headline and you know why not. So that's what was going to be. I'm going to be doing fire brand for a bit. I will share it in places you might be able to see if you're paying attention, but I'm not going to be blasting it out through this podcast feed and I probably won't say much about it on any of my like mental health socials. If you want to find out just you could either send me an email, John at Emo Dojocom, or if you hear this podcast anytime into February, just go to firebrand showcom or firebrand dot show, and what it'll be there. I'm primarily going...

...to market that show on Linkedin and clubhouse. That's it, no place else. That's my experiment. So that's all I got for you. That was actually quite a bit. I appreciate hearing me rant. So we covered negative bias and the book called the power of bad go check that out and, if you can help at all, point me in the right direction to start a nonprofit for my drum circle, the emo Dojo in real life. I appreciate your input. Hit Me up and in the meantime, next couple of weeks look for the firebrand podcast. That's going to be me sharing my marketing experiences from the sex, drugs and rock and roll communities. Cool, cool, I appreciate you. Have a great rest to your day and now back to the wall.

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