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New Year's Resolution Suggestions for Families of the Mentally Ill

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Captured live from John Emotions' old YouTube live stream, John reflects on the past year and gives some previews of the year to come. Highlights include snarky suggestions to families of the mentally ill who suck at taking responsibility for their sick and disabled loved ones. Follow/chat with John on Twitter @BipolarStyle

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Welcome back to bipolar style, thepodcast for bipolar people and those who love them. Join US online at bipolarstylecom and now here's your host, Johnny Motion, Whoa Welcome. It's Johnnymotions with the bipolar style. You made it man. This is the endof the year. Two thousand and seventeen. was quite a ride and the yearthis podcast started, so it's pretty important to me. I loved it, I hated it, typical bipolar fashion. Yeah, it was a thing,man. Two thousand and seventeen is almost over and I'm glad you're here. I'm glad I'm here and a stick around. Tomorrow will be a NewYear, you know, in a metaphorical way, to start a new life, if you will, you know, just kind of a milestone to moveforward in your recovery or your progress, whatever you consider forward movement and gettingbetter. So thanks for tuning in the bipolar style. I have some notimportant, but I have some business to do here real quick. I'm goingto turn on the twitter live stream camera and then we'll get started with thebulk of the PODCAST, which isn't very long. It's about thirty minutes,and at the end I'll tell you a way that you can get a freeemo Joe t shirt. It's like little Yin Yang with the Smiley face guy, a designed for kind of the brand for the bipolar style but, youknow, doesn't say bipolar anything on it. People like them. So if youwant to know how to get an emo Joe Shirt, hang tight.I'm not going to tell the people on the twitter live stream about it.It's only for podcast listeners. So listen up at the end you'll be ableto go, you know, do the thing that is required to get at shirt. Hey, all right then, cool. Hold on a second,let me go push the button and get the twitter live stream going.All right, welcome twitter live stream people. I'm johnny emotions, as you cansee from my fancy new lower thirds. There, John Emotions. Follow meon twitter and you can check out a lot of the past episodes,this past season of bipolar style. It's my podcast. I started back inAugust. This will be episode thirteen or fourteen, the end of the firstseason affectionately known as bipolar style. So welcome. Thank you folks out there. I told the people on the PODCAST who've been here before you guys gothere. How do stick around? Learn how to get your free emo JoeTshirt. Yeah, I'll say I like this, like that guy. That'semo Joe. It's a little logo I made for the bipolar style podcasts andit's it doesn't say bipolar anything on it and people like it. So ifyou want to find out how to get a free one, stick around.Stick around. Wow, what a year, man. I'm glad we made it. Of course, I typically only record podcast and video when I'm feelingup to it. So you never see me when I'm at my lowest andmodestly, nobody really sees me at what I'm at my lowest. So that'ssaid, I'm glad to be here. Two Thousand and eighteen, I meantwo thousand and seventeen, was a trip I listened to. I had diddone a kind of pilot episode of bipolar style back in right about now,like I think tonight, if he was either Christmas Eve or New Year's Eveof two thousand and sixteen into seventeen, where I had just I was inLos Angeles, living down there and I had nobody to hang out with andnothing to do, so I walked out on the street with my Handy ZoomMike this thing here, which actually is recording the podcast right now, butit's portable. So took the mic out with another mic that plugs into it, and found a guy named Jay from...

Chicago, and he was like astreet person, drunk, kind of looking for some more alcohol, and heshared his story about how he also had bipolar disorder, which I thought wasthat that's that's a that's a great kind of cautionary tale and it's a goodway to start a podcast and it also was kind of D podcast that Iwanted to have. Anyway, just excuse me, just like a man onthe street kind of deal. Anyway, that I called that bipolar show.You can go see bipolar showcom goes to the old soundcloud files and take alisten if you like. Anyway, the audio wasn't that great, but therewas a me interviewing Jay from Chicago in a dark alley late at night ona night just like tonight, so it's pretty interesting. But anyway, Ikind of went off the rails, as bipolar people tend to. Ended upmoving away from Los Angeles, moved to Louisiana for a while, move backto the San Francisco Bay area and when I got back to the bay area. I thought, man, I still like that idea of doing the podcast, but bipolar show is a little too heavy handed. Was Not, Idon't know, it's not specifically the idea. Was it specifically about bipolar or toinform people about pipe polar it was just place for me to get myvoice heard, to get it out, because when you're sick over years andyears, you tend to not have continuity of health care or mental health careor anything like that. So I don't have a steady therapist, never have. The ones I have had have said yeah, get go ahead and havea podcast or do I fucking live stream or whatever. If it's good foryou, if you're able to communicate your feelings and get them out, thenthat's sometimes as good as having the therapist. Now, obviously your your picks ellson a screen and you can't give me a hug or anything like that, so it's not quite the same, but it's helpful to have this voice, to get to get this yet out. Yeah, so that's part of whythe whole thing started. It just kind of seems to end. Itended up being like my turn to share at a dbs a meeting. Ifyou are new to depression or bipolar what you do is go to dbs allianceDot Org. That's the DBSA I'm referring to. Anyway, they have DBSAmeetings and you can go to hang out with other bipolar people, I guess, people with bipolar disorder. However, you like to explain that and itfeels grid good to see others hear their stories in person. You don't reallyyou still don't get a hug, but it's nice to go and share that. So, anyway, I can't get out all the time to the DBSAmeetings, but this is very similar. So in a dbs a meeting youtell them your name and how you were, your week was, and then whenit comes around to your turn again, you just share whatever the fuck youfeel like sharing, which is a lot of times all we need.Most of us don't have a place to do that in our normal lives,so it's nice to have a small audience of people in a circle to shareyour problems or your thoughts or your concerns about anything really. So that's kindof what this podcast turned out to be, just my share out to the world. Makes Sense. It's kind of weird the people now on the livestream get to see me walk around and fuck up. That's all edited outfrom the PODCAST. Edddddd it out from the PODCAST, and the podcast peopleget new music. Live stream people won't get that for a while until Iget two people, myself and somebody else, to run this obs software. Asyou can see, like I said, I've got lower thirds happening down herenow. That's cool. I like that. If I was over atthe computer I can push the buttons and make other shit fly around the screenand make it like a really live stream thing. But I really wanted toconcentrate still on podcasting. It's really just...

...this is just an adjunct to thePODCASTS. So, yeah, I have to get used to that. Ihave to get used to that too. Let's get onto some topics. Tooksome notes through the week to talk about on the podcast. I think Ishould go to toast masters. That's not one of my notes, but man, I bet they would teach you how to breathe while you're speaking and standing. I do the podcast while I'm standing because I don't want it to droneon and on and on forever and ever. So I fear if I do itstanding. It's more like a like a stand up routine. Right,okay, I'm going to just digress lightly. But if this worst stand up routine, my new bit would be. Have you seen the new apple commercial? New Apple Os, ten or ISS, ten fucking apple, ten apple phonesand the big latest phone with the big notch in the top of thecamera goes. Anyway, the new ad campaign. It's really hyping the facialrecognition and one of the big phrases that comes across the screen when they're,you know, dancing and the big white background in the phone flashing around,it says pay with your face, pay with your face. That seems soabsurd to me. I started thinking what else can I pay for? Whatcan I pay for? Can I just like throw my dick out on thatlittle scanner at CBS? Pay With my Dick, or even better, Ijust bend over and pay with my buttle? It's like there you go, okay, paid your turn. WHO's up next? Anyway, I'm not standup now. You can see why. To get onto the topics, man, oh, in some housekeeping before we get onto the topics. On theyear end stuff, man. So the host I use. Hold on,I'm excited let me catch my breath. A manic. What time is it? Anyway? It's thirty in California. Now that means who it's getting closeto fucking like New Year's Day. It's almost two thousand and eighteen in theUK. About two more hours. Yeah, roughly two and a half hours.That's neat. I bring this up because I looked at the map ofall the statistics at Lipson LIBS and my host, l Ib Syn, liberatedsyndication libs in so good plug for them. Hey, go to lips and ifyou want to do a podcasts anyway, on lips and they have new statisticsthat show all your different downloads and for one man, there are waymore downloads than I thought there would be, which is good and also somewhat scary, because I now I feel somewhat obligated to actually produce a podcast.Like right now, instead of sitting in my ass downstairs drinking, I'm uphere making up podcast, which I guess it's good. You know, givesme structure. But Anyway, lots of people in the UK, in Australiaand New Zealand, Thailand, HMM, tons of America, India, Bangladesh. It's like tons of places. Wait, maybe not India. I think it'sblocked there. Anyway, explicit content whatever. Lots of people in lotsof places I didn't know about are hearing the show and even, like peoplefrom my group, my own dbs a group, a guy said, yeah, thisten's your podcast. I'm like, no way, he did not,and he did. He explained which wanted to listen to. So man,I really appreciate you guys listening and sometimes I just ramble on, but Iencourage you to ramble on, use your voice, find a place to beheard. You're always welcome to come on this show and share your bipolar experiences. I would love to hear them, and I think other people like tohear other voice besides mine. So let's let's try that soon. And there'sso lots of places around the world, lots of downloads for the year,HMM, and lots of help like, especially on twitter. Diane, SuperHelpful. I should list all these people,...

...like actually list them on a twitterpost or pin them to the post. So Jason Becky at that B wordpodcast, who we're trying to like do a host cohost thing, butnow I'm flaking on it because I was going to start a third brand andlike, I don't need a third brand now. What the FUCK DO Ido? So maybe we can connect and do Mashup smashup podcasts more frequently,something like that. We're switching over from facebook video to yea, yeah,right here, Youtube live stream, mostly because these, once they're recorded,you can share youtube videos everywhere, including facebook. On the flip side,only facebook videos. You know, facebook videos are stuck on facebook. Youcan't share them on youtube or twitter or places like that. So that's whywe're going to youtube live stream. Alo One SECON'M gonna grab drink. DRINK, yeah, not that kind of drink. Rock star Fruit Punch, my favorite. I get down. I don't drink coffee. Little Caffeine helps,though. Pool okay, anyway, yeah, digressions that may get cut from thepodcast. To update from last week. Well, let's see, it's NewYear's now and I think I want to just complain, to talk aboutmy problems. You know what I mean, because by the time I get throughall of this and get ready to make a video, I kind ofprocess them. I'm like God, that's okay, it'll be fine whatever.So I ended up not going to my dad's because, well, I didn'tlike the way I didn't like the tone of his voice when he hung upthe phone the last time I had called him, when I told him,Hey, dude, something fucked up happened to me. Instead of saying likeOh shit, that is fucked up, how can I come help, orhow can I help at all, or whatever, he I heard him hangup the phone. There's a person in the room with them, and Ihear him saying up see what I tell you. You know, as I'mlike a fuck and so, instead of offering any kind of assistance or oranything, any kind of like oh sorry, how can I help? kind ofsituation, instead of any of that, later in the week I get aOh hey, I need you to bring me something when you come upfor for New Year's. So I'm like, that's it, really, you justyou just need me for something. You don't want to you just goingto Hash over that whole thing that happened the few days prior. Okay,whatever. So, anyway, fuck that. I'm not going up there. I'mnot going to spend a hundred dollars of more in gas that don't haveand then come back down. I was too much stressed and I'll be travelingback down with all the other Goddamn pee fool and it may have to goup there anyhow in a few weeks. So whatever, stay at home,stay in this place, call it home now. Anyway, I'm staying safe, stay in warm and not going anywhere for New Year's so that's the updatefor that. It turns out my mom went on a trip. Apparently she'son a cruise in the UK doing whatever for the holidays, so good forher. And I saw my middle son. That was great. Went saw movielast week. Went inside Jumanji, which was surprisingly better than I thoughtit would be. I like all the actors in it, but you know, I'm like, great, do we need another Jumanji really? And andbesides, it's a copy of a Robin Williams movie and I think a lotof bipolar people have a special place in their heart for by, for RobinWilliams, because it was potential for having had bipolar disorder. Anyway, seeingJumanji, back to the point, was fun because I got to see itwith my Middle Son Jack and I love them a lot and I miss them, so that's great. The other two didn't want to come or didn't replyor whatever. made it kind of hard for the holidays. But what canyou do, man, just go on, just keep going. It's I'm do. So back to now, two...

...thousand and eighteen. Let me seewhat we're talking about today. HMM. Oh Yeah, okay, here's thething, so I may, I'm trying to create this opportunity. Like thejob I have now, they haven't provided a computer, like I've been therelike six months. Still no computer. Supposed to be like in charge ofa certain thing that clearly requires a computer. I'm having to use my own shit. It just I don't feel like respected at the job. So Ihave to be careful not to jump around from job to job just because Idon't feel respected. But some point, yeah, anyway. So I'm tryingto create a new thing. So what I'm trying to do is there's abuilding in San Francisco that houses a bunch of old people, like lots ofdisconnected, isolated people. I want to find out how to, HMM,get into position to manage a building like that and use it as a testcase to find out how we can get isolated people, especially older people,living alone in small little closet size of rooms, to communicate more with eachother, to use digital tools to get them out of their rooms and thento get them to interact in person based on their use of those digital tools. So I guess the idea I have is kind of I don't know howto explain it, but it's like a tender or a bumble for lonely peoplelike you. Put in what you're into. You don't put your picture. It'slike the opposite, the opposite of that, where you don't there's novisuals. You can put your art, your favorite artist, maybe your favoritemusic, what you're into, but you know, put the activities that you'repossible, that you're able to do. I'm sorry that you're possible. Putput the activities that are possible for you to do. Don't put things thatyou like to do. Put things that you can do, like can gobowling or do light yoga for old people or something like that, and thenget these old people to interact that way through an APP, to try toso they connect in real life, but on their desires and likes for recreationalactivities instead of love interest. Makes Sense. All you have to do is sayit's bumble for lonely people. Wait a second, bumble already is forlonely people. Now I'm just kidding in you get the picture. We're takeaway the photos and make an APP for lonely people that is just geared towardlocal people getting together to do shit so they're just not in isolation anymore.That's my big goal for the next for you, for the next year,for like two thousand and eighteen. This one potentially, this one potential placethat I have in mind. I've been talking to they also have a musicsetup and they have monthly jazz shows in this area. So I'm thinking somehowconnecting all the people in the building through music, of course, because youknow, I've played music, love music and I think it's a great tool. It's a universal language that everybody speaks. So I'm kind of excited about thatand I will keep you posted. That said, that's kind of whyI had this kind of conflict. Like to I keep calling the show bipolarstyle or just johnny emotion show. So anyway, I'll call johnny emotions thelive stream here called bipolar style, the bipolar related podcast. But anyway,don't get them confused. It's all just me rambling around things I'm up toright now. Huh, my note says big decision. Use My real name, become a public speaker, write a book. I don't know about that. So I've used my real name before and I've kind of come out,so to speak, quote unquote, as a bipolar person. That didn't workout so well. So now, based...

...on actual life experience, I keepthat part of my life anonymous or at least private, you know, somewhatseparated. You really have to be kind of an obsessive freak to find toput the two and two together, like the real me and the John Emotionsbrand. It's easy to do. Just, you know, go to fucking whois or something like that and find out. But whatever. So that'snot important. What's important is that I'm making an attempt, for the peoplethat are not obsessively trying to find out who I am, to just communicateto the rest of the world how people with bipolar, borderline personality disorder,PTSD and anxiety disorders and all of those things actually act and feel in reallife. So to do that now I'm like, fuck, real name,HMM, stage name, real name, stage name. So I think stagename for this year. Why not? Yeah, fuck it, it's noteven that important. Why am I? Why are we talking to you aboutit? I'll figure it out all right. Next down the lists. For thoseof you, this is a great new year's resolution for people that havefamily members that have mental illnesses or disorders. Write this down as your fucking resolution, except that you have a sick family member and that person can behelped. So that's your responsibility to help your family directly or to make surethey find help. That is your family. Like bill Burr says, we don'tjust have kids. So we have more humans shitting in the river.We just that's not the purpose of making families. The families should all helpeach other. If you have somebody that is sick in your family, youshould help them. Got It makes sense, that simple, and so, asa family member, what it's important to do is to be there forthem in person and listen to them. Don't try to solve their condition.In fact, bipolar disorder is currently incurable. So just listen to them, letthem be them and stop trying to cure them and accept them as disabled. If you're not solid enough human to care about a disabled loved one,maybe you should reconsider your existence here on planet earth. The next thing youcan do as a loved one, so called Love One, family member,of somebody with a mental disorder, is stop gas lighting them. Do youknow what gas lighting is? Gas Lighting is when you deny somebody else's reality. So in the existence in my case, what it is is a lot ofpeople because I only go outside or do podcast or talking the phone orthings when I'm capable. When I'm not capable, I don't exist in realworld. I hide. So in my case gas lighting is telling me,Oh, you're not sick, you're okay, you're just faking it. Obviously thedoctors, the scientist, the guys who do the cat scans, thepharmacist, the the the prescription writers, the therapist, they all say differently. I'm not it's my prerogative not to have to talk about all that everytime it the subject comes up, but just know that you, the layperson, telling somebody that they are not crazy when the whole medical establishment hasconfirmed it makes you look like an idiot. So I guess what I'm saying isjust don't be an idiot. If someone's going to the hospital but youthink they're faking you think someone fucking wants to have bipolar disorder? You thinkthey want to have a personality disorder? You think somebody wants to have PTSDor anxiety? Fuck, no, fuck you if you think that. That'sstupid, and stop gas lighting people that have been to the doctor and diagnosedand that take medication for it. Stop telling them they're not crazy, thatthey're faking it. That's just stupid. So the last thing you might wantto consider if you're the loved one of...

...somebody that has a mental disorder ormental illness is to give up on the quote unquote, tough love. Thatis bullshit. Tough love is bullshit. How about trying smart love, oreven kind love? There's an idea. My mom tried to treat me withtough love. She tried to treat by polar disorder with truck tough love backwhen I was like fourteen, kick me out on the streets. It didn'twork. None of it worked. It didn't cure my bi polar disorder.He created more disorders, made things much worse. And people say, well, what did you expect her to do? Well, I expect her to takeme to fucking hospital, get me help from her doctor. It wasfourteen, for Fuck's sake. What else would you do? Of course youtake your kid there. You know she took me there once when I wasyounger. The doctor said, HMM, next time I will see your momby herself. You don't have to come anyway. I got the boot atfourteen because of quote unquote, tough love. So obviously it doesn't work. Ifyou love somebody, just love them, help them, give them a hug, tell them you'll be there for them, tell them you won't abandonthem. There's are lots of cool things you can do for loved ones whohave mental illnesses in two thousand and eighteen. So give it a shot. Makesome resolutions to not be a Dick and help those who need help themost. Now remember, of course, those are resolutions for quote unquote normalpeople, like healthy people, not for those of us who are sick.I'm not saying don't be a Dick, but yeah, don't be a deck. Obviously, most people that have a disorder are not judgmental of others thathave similar disorders because we know how it feels. We have empathy for that. But yeah, it's important to remind people that think they're healthy. Theythink they're above it. You know, they have sicknesses. They got theGout, they get asthma, they got the diabetes, of the cancer theyI mean, we just have a different thing. So, you know,got to remind them that we can't get sick. We do look normal.Our normal is different than your normal. So give us a break and toughlove is bullshit and cut it with the gas lighting. No more gas lighting. So there are some awesome things coming up. Through a podcasting group onFacebook, I met a gentleman who introduced me to a friend of his whoI'm going to have on this show. The friend because he just got hiswife from the hospital with bipolar disorder and orderline personality disorder. So I guessthey're given these out at the hospital now. No, I'm kidding, but sowe're going to talk to him about what it's like to be the familymember of somebody that has both bipolar and borderline. That's going to be neat. Also, the guy who connected this has a podcast called come to thetable, which is a faith based podcast I'm going to check out. I'mgoing to be a guest on that. We're going to talk about a lotof interesting things probably I'm going to talk about my loss of faith and tosee where we can come together and find a happy medium on that, becauseI'm agnostic at best, atheists a lot. So that'd be fun and that,gentlemen, and also hook me up with a popular radio DJ in theOhio area, I believe, and that dudes got bipolar. He's been onthe local media kind of like as a local mental health warrior kind of Guy, so I'd like to have him on. I think that's going to happen aswell. So there's going to be a lot of cool stuff in thefirst month and a half or so and look forward to having you here onthe twitter live stream and you guys here in the headphones on the podcast.I can't promise that it'll be more consistent on a schedule because, like Isaid, I don't really record or publish any of this shit when I'm notfeeling well, so it's not like you can ever see it me here bawling, crying things like that. Not Right, not right for me anyway. ButShit, man, two thousand and eighteen has to be better than twothousand and seventeen. was so much crazy extra work in two thousand and seventeen. I just want some stability, some love. I want some more hugs. And two thousand and eighteen and I...

...guess we'll just keep pushing this littlebrand thing, my little fucking twitter and Youtube experiment, and just I'll takethat as it is. I like a hobby. It's good hobby to haveand let me get it out right. All right then, happy two thousandand eighteen. We'll see you soon. And here's my buddy ray ray asold time friend of mine, like my longest friend, probably since the sixthgrade, seventh grade, and used to play together in band and he stillmakes music. So the music you hear in the background is Ray levus.He's not big on like social media, so you can't find him, butI do want to thank him. I appreciate him and listen to this musicon the way out. This is going to be the kind of a themesound of the Johnny emotions bipolar sound show thing. Two Thousand and eighteen.All right, mostly so I can get on the spotify. spotify will notlet me on with any of that unlicensed music. Dig, dig, allright, cool bit. You guys have a great two thousand and eighteen.Stay safe. I'm glad we made it this far. You've made it thisfar, you can make it. You know, few more hours. Don'tgo doing anything crazy tomorrow. It's not a special celebration day to go killyourself or anything like that. Hold tight, make it to the second and thenwe'll talk. All right, cool. If you've liked what you heard,subscribe on Apple podcast via Itunes and join us at bipolar stylecom. Thanksfor listening.

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