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New Year's Resolution Suggestions for Families of the Mentally Ill

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Captured live from John Emotions' old YouTube live stream, John reflects on the past year and gives some previews of the year to come. Highlights include snarky suggestions to families of the mentally ill who suck at taking responsibility for their sick and disabled loved ones. Follow/chat with John on Twitter @BipolarStyle

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Welcome back to bipolar style, the podcast for bipolar people and those who love them. Join US online at bipolar stylecom and now here's your host, Johnny Motion, Whoa Welcome. It's Johnny motions with the bipolar style. You made it man. This is the end of the year. Two thousand and seventeen. was quite a ride and the year this podcast started, so it's pretty important to me. I loved it, I hated it, typical bipolar fashion. Yeah, it was a thing, man. Two thousand and seventeen is almost over and I'm glad you're here. I'm glad I'm here and a stick around. Tomorrow will be a New Year, you know, in a metaphorical way, to start a new life, if you will, you know, just kind of a milestone to move forward in your recovery or your progress, whatever you consider forward movement and getting better. So thanks for tuning in the bipolar style. I have some not important, but I have some business to do here real quick. I'm going to turn on the twitter live stream camera and then we'll get started with the bulk of the PODCAST, which isn't very long. It's about thirty minutes, and at the end I'll tell you a way that you can get a free emo Joe t shirt. It's like little Yin Yang with the Smiley face guy, a designed for kind of the brand for the bipolar style but, you know, doesn't say bipolar anything on it. People like them. So if you want to know how to get an emo Joe Shirt, hang tight. I'm not going to tell the people on the twitter live stream about it. It's only for podcast listeners. So listen up at the end you'll be able to go, you know, do the thing that is required to get a t shirt. Hey, all right then, cool. Hold on a second, let me go push the button and get the twitter live stream going. All right, welcome twitter live stream people. I'm johnny emotions, as you can see from my fancy new lower thirds. There, John Emotions. Follow me on twitter and you can check out a lot of the past episodes, this past season of bipolar style. It's my podcast. I started back in August. This will be episode thirteen or fourteen, the end of the first season affectionately known as bipolar style. So welcome. Thank you folks out there. I told the people on the PODCAST who've been here before you guys got here. How do stick around? Learn how to get your free emo Joe Tshirt. Yeah, I'll say I like this, like that guy. That's emo Joe. It's a little logo I made for the bipolar style podcasts and it's it doesn't say bipolar anything on it and people like it. So if you want to find out how to get a free one, stick around. Stick around. Wow, what a year, man. I'm glad we made it. Of course, I typically only record podcast and video when I'm feeling up to it. So you never see me when I'm at my lowest and modestly, nobody really sees me at what I'm at my lowest. So that's said, I'm glad to be here. Two Thousand and eighteen, I mean two thousand and seventeen, was a trip I listened to. I had did done a kind of pilot episode of bipolar style back in right about now, like I think tonight, if he was either Christmas Eve or New Year's Eve of two thousand and sixteen into seventeen, where I had just I was in Los Angeles, living down there and I had nobody to hang out with and nothing to do, so I walked out on the street with my Handy Zoom Mike this thing here, which actually is recording the podcast right now, but it's portable. So took the mic out with another mic that plugs into it, and found a guy named Jay from...

Chicago, and he was like a street person, drunk, kind of looking for some more alcohol, and he shared his story about how he also had bipolar disorder, which I thought was that that's that's a that's a great kind of cautionary tale and it's a good way to start a podcast and it also was kind of D podcast that I wanted to have. Anyway, just excuse me, just like a man on the street kind of deal. Anyway, that I called that bipolar show. You can go see bipolar showcom goes to the old soundcloud files and take a listen if you like. Anyway, the audio wasn't that great, but there was a me interviewing Jay from Chicago in a dark alley late at night on a night just like tonight, so it's pretty interesting. But anyway, I kind of went off the rails, as bipolar people tend to. Ended up moving away from Los Angeles, moved to Louisiana for a while, move back to the San Francisco Bay area and when I got back to the bay area. I thought, man, I still like that idea of doing the podcast, but bipolar show is a little too heavy handed. Was Not, I don't know, it's not specifically the idea. Was it specifically about bipolar or to inform people about pipe polar it was just place for me to get my voice heard, to get it out, because when you're sick over years and years, you tend to not have continuity of health care or mental health care or anything like that. So I don't have a steady therapist, never have. The ones I have had have said yeah, get go ahead and have a podcast or do I fucking live stream or whatever. If it's good for you, if you're able to communicate your feelings and get them out, then that's sometimes as good as having the therapist. Now, obviously your your picks ells on a screen and you can't give me a hug or anything like that, so it's not quite the same, but it's helpful to have this voice, to get to get this yet out. Yeah, so that's part of why the whole thing started. It just kind of seems to end. It ended up being like my turn to share at a dbs a meeting. If you are new to depression or bipolar what you do is go to dbs alliance Dot Org. That's the DBSA I'm referring to. Anyway, they have DBSA meetings and you can go to hang out with other bipolar people, I guess, people with bipolar disorder. However, you like to explain that and it feels grid good to see others hear their stories in person. You don't really you still don't get a hug, but it's nice to go and share that. So, anyway, I can't get out all the time to the DBSA meetings, but this is very similar. So in a dbs a meeting you tell them your name and how you were, your week was, and then when it comes around to your turn again, you just share whatever the fuck you feel like sharing, which is a lot of times all we need. Most of us don't have a place to do that in our normal lives, so it's nice to have a small audience of people in a circle to share your problems or your thoughts or your concerns about anything really. So that's kind of what this podcast turned out to be, just my share out to the world. Makes Sense. It's kind of weird the people now on the live stream get to see me walk around and fuck up. That's all edited out from the PODCAST. Edddddd it out from the PODCAST, and the podcast people get new music. Live stream people won't get that for a while until I get two people, myself and somebody else, to run this obs software. As you can see, like I said, I've got lower thirds happening down here now. That's cool. I like that. If I was over at the computer I can push the buttons and make other shit fly around the screen and make it like a really live stream thing. But I really wanted to concentrate still on podcasting. It's really just...

...this is just an adjunct to the PODCASTS. So, yeah, I have to get used to that. I have to get used to that too. Let's get onto some topics. Took some notes through the week to talk about on the podcast. I think I should go to toast masters. That's not one of my notes, but man, I bet they would teach you how to breathe while you're speaking and standing. I do the podcast while I'm standing because I don't want it to drone on and on and on forever and ever. So I fear if I do it standing. It's more like a like a stand up routine. Right, okay, I'm going to just digress lightly. But if this worst stand up routine, my new bit would be. Have you seen the new apple commercial? New Apple Os, ten or ISS, ten fucking apple, ten apple phones and the big latest phone with the big notch in the top of the camera goes. Anyway, the new ad campaign. It's really hyping the facial recognition and one of the big phrases that comes across the screen when they're, you know, dancing and the big white background in the phone flashing around, it says pay with your face, pay with your face. That seems so absurd to me. I started thinking what else can I pay for? What can I pay for? Can I just like throw my dick out on that little scanner at CBS? Pay With my Dick, or even better, I just bend over and pay with my buttle? It's like there you go, okay, paid your turn. WHO's up next? Anyway, I'm not stand up now. You can see why. To get onto the topics, man, oh, in some housekeeping before we get onto the topics. On the year end stuff, man. So the host I use. Hold on, I'm excited let me catch my breath. A manic. What time is it? Anyway? It's thirty in California. Now that means who it's getting close to fucking like New Year's Day. It's almost two thousand and eighteen in the UK. About two more hours. Yeah, roughly two and a half hours. That's neat. I bring this up because I looked at the map of all the statistics at Lipson LIBS and my host, l Ib Syn, liberated syndication libs in so good plug for them. Hey, go to lips and if you want to do a podcasts anyway, on lips and they have new statistics that show all your different downloads and for one man, there are way more downloads than I thought there would be, which is good and also somewhat scary, because I now I feel somewhat obligated to actually produce a podcast. Like right now, instead of sitting in my ass downstairs drinking, I'm up here making up podcast, which I guess it's good. You know, gives me structure. But Anyway, lots of people in the UK, in Australia and New Zealand, Thailand, HMM, tons of America, India, Bangladesh. It's like tons of places. Wait, maybe not India. I think it's blocked there. Anyway, explicit content whatever. Lots of people in lots of places I didn't know about are hearing the show and even, like people from my group, my own dbs a group, a guy said, yeah, thisten's your podcast. I'm like, no way, he did not, and he did. He explained which wanted to listen to. So man, I really appreciate you guys listening and sometimes I just ramble on, but I encourage you to ramble on, use your voice, find a place to be heard. You're always welcome to come on this show and share your bipolar experiences. I would love to hear them, and I think other people like to hear other voice besides mine. So let's let's try that soon. And there's so lots of places around the world, lots of downloads for the year, HMM, and lots of help like, especially on twitter. Diane, Super Helpful. I should list all these people,...

...like actually list them on a twitter post or pin them to the post. So Jason Becky at that B word podcast, who we're trying to like do a host cohost thing, but now I'm flaking on it because I was going to start a third brand and like, I don't need a third brand now. What the FUCK DO I do? So maybe we can connect and do Mashup smashup podcasts more frequently, something like that. We're switching over from facebook video to yea, yeah, right here, Youtube live stream, mostly because these, once they're recorded, you can share youtube videos everywhere, including facebook. On the flip side, only facebook videos. You know, facebook videos are stuck on facebook. You can't share them on youtube or twitter or places like that. So that's why we're going to youtube live stream. Alo One SECON'M gonna grab drink. DRINK, yeah, not that kind of drink. Rock star Fruit Punch, my favorite. I get down. I don't drink coffee. Little Caffeine helps, though. Pool okay, anyway, yeah, digressions that may get cut from the podcast. To update from last week. Well, let's see, it's New Year's now and I think I want to just complain, to talk about my problems. You know what I mean, because by the time I get through all of this and get ready to make a video, I kind of process them. I'm like God, that's okay, it'll be fine whatever. So I ended up not going to my dad's because, well, I didn't like the way I didn't like the tone of his voice when he hung up the phone the last time I had called him, when I told him, Hey, dude, something fucked up happened to me. Instead of saying like Oh shit, that is fucked up, how can I come help, or how can I help at all, or whatever, he I heard him hang up the phone. There's a person in the room with them, and I hear him saying up see what I tell you. You know, as I'm like a fuck and so, instead of offering any kind of assistance or or anything, any kind of like oh sorry, how can I help? kind of situation, instead of any of that, later in the week I get a Oh hey, I need you to bring me something when you come up for for New Year's. So I'm like, that's it, really, you just you just need me for something. You don't want to you just going to Hash over that whole thing that happened the few days prior. Okay, whatever. So, anyway, fuck that. I'm not going up there. I'm not going to spend a hundred dollars of more in gas that don't have and then come back down. I was too much stressed and I'll be traveling back down with all the other Goddamn pee fool and it may have to go up there anyhow in a few weeks. So whatever, stay at home, stay in this place, call it home now. Anyway, I'm staying safe, stay in warm and not going anywhere for New Year's so that's the update for that. It turns out my mom went on a trip. Apparently she's on a cruise in the UK doing whatever for the holidays, so good for her. And I saw my middle son. That was great. Went saw movie last week. Went inside Jumanji, which was surprisingly better than I thought it would be. I like all the actors in it, but you know, I'm like, great, do we need another Jumanji really? And and besides, it's a copy of a Robin Williams movie and I think a lot of bipolar people have a special place in their heart for by, for Robin Williams, because it was potential for having had bipolar disorder. Anyway, seeing Jumanji, back to the point, was fun because I got to see it with my Middle Son Jack and I love them a lot and I miss them, so that's great. The other two didn't want to come or didn't reply or whatever. made it kind of hard for the holidays. But what can you do, man, just go on, just keep going. It's I'm do. So back to now, two...

...thousand and eighteen. Let me see what we're talking about today. HMM. Oh Yeah, okay, here's the thing, so I may, I'm trying to create this opportunity. Like the job I have now, they haven't provided a computer, like I've been there like six months. Still no computer. Supposed to be like in charge of a certain thing that clearly requires a computer. I'm having to use my own shit. It just I don't feel like respected at the job. So I have to be careful not to jump around from job to job just because I don't feel respected. But some point, yeah, anyway. So I'm trying to create a new thing. So what I'm trying to do is there's a building in San Francisco that houses a bunch of old people, like lots of disconnected, isolated people. I want to find out how to, HMM, get into position to manage a building like that and use it as a test case to find out how we can get isolated people, especially older people, living alone in small little closet size of rooms, to communicate more with each other, to use digital tools to get them out of their rooms and then to get them to interact in person based on their use of those digital tools. So I guess the idea I have is kind of I don't know how to explain it, but it's like a tender or a bumble for lonely people like you. Put in what you're into. You don't put your picture. It's like the opposite, the opposite of that, where you don't there's no visuals. You can put your art, your favorite artist, maybe your favorite music, what you're into, but you know, put the activities that you're possible, that you're able to do. I'm sorry that you're possible. Put put the activities that are possible for you to do. Don't put things that you like to do. Put things that you can do, like can go bowling or do light yoga for old people or something like that, and then get these old people to interact that way through an APP, to try to so they connect in real life, but on their desires and likes for recreational activities instead of love interest. Makes Sense. All you have to do is say it's bumble for lonely people. Wait a second, bumble already is for lonely people. Now I'm just kidding in you get the picture. We're take away the photos and make an APP for lonely people that is just geared toward local people getting together to do shit so they're just not in isolation anymore. That's my big goal for the next for you, for the next year, for like two thousand and eighteen. This one potentially, this one potential place that I have in mind. I've been talking to they also have a music setup and they have monthly jazz shows in this area. So I'm thinking somehow connecting all the people in the building through music, of course, because you know, I've played music, love music and I think it's a great tool. It's a universal language that everybody speaks. So I'm kind of excited about that and I will keep you posted. That said, that's kind of why I had this kind of conflict. Like to I keep calling the show bipolar style or just johnny emotion show. So anyway, I'll call johnny emotions the live stream here called bipolar style, the bipolar related podcast. But anyway, don't get them confused. It's all just me rambling around things I'm up to right now. Huh, my note says big decision. Use My real name, become a public speaker, write a book. I don't know about that. So I've used my real name before and I've kind of come out, so to speak, quote unquote, as a bipolar person. That didn't work out so well. So now, based...

...on actual life experience, I keep that part of my life anonymous or at least private, you know, somewhat separated. You really have to be kind of an obsessive freak to find to put the two and two together, like the real me and the John Emotions brand. It's easy to do. Just, you know, go to fucking who is or something like that and find out. But whatever. So that's not important. What's important is that I'm making an attempt, for the people that are not obsessively trying to find out who I am, to just communicate to the rest of the world how people with bipolar, borderline personality disorder, PTSD and anxiety disorders and all of those things actually act and feel in real life. So to do that now I'm like, fuck, real name, HMM, stage name, real name, stage name. So I think stage name for this year. Why not? Yeah, fuck it, it's not even that important. Why am I? Why are we talking to you about it? I'll figure it out all right. Next down the lists. For those of you, this is a great new year's resolution for people that have family members that have mental illnesses or disorders. Write this down as your fucking resolution, except that you have a sick family member and that person can be helped. So that's your responsibility to help your family directly or to make sure they find help. That is your family. Like bill Burr says, we don't just have kids. So we have more humans shitting in the river. We just that's not the purpose of making families. The families should all help each other. If you have somebody that is sick in your family, you should help them. Got It makes sense, that simple, and so, as a family member, what it's important to do is to be there for them in person and listen to them. Don't try to solve their condition. In fact, bipolar disorder is currently incurable. So just listen to them, let them be them and stop trying to cure them and accept them as disabled. If you're not solid enough human to care about a disabled loved one, maybe you should reconsider your existence here on planet earth. The next thing you can do as a loved one, so called Love One, family member, of somebody with a mental disorder, is stop gas lighting them. Do you know what gas lighting is? Gas Lighting is when you deny somebody else's reality. So in the existence in my case, what it is is a lot of people because I only go outside or do podcast or talking the phone or things when I'm capable. When I'm not capable, I don't exist in real world. I hide. So in my case gas lighting is telling me, Oh, you're not sick, you're okay, you're just faking it. Obviously the doctors, the scientist, the guys who do the cat scans, the pharmacist, the the the prescription writers, the therapist, they all say differently. I'm not it's my prerogative not to have to talk about all that every time it the subject comes up, but just know that you, the lay person, telling somebody that they are not crazy when the whole medical establishment has confirmed it makes you look like an idiot. So I guess what I'm saying is just don't be an idiot. If someone's going to the hospital but you think they're faking you think someone fucking wants to have bipolar disorder? You think they want to have a personality disorder? You think somebody wants to have PTSD or anxiety? Fuck, no, fuck you if you think that. That's stupid, and stop gas lighting people that have been to the doctor and diagnosed and that take medication for it. Stop telling them they're not crazy, that they're faking it. That's just stupid. So the last thing you might want to consider if you're the loved one of...

...somebody that has a mental disorder or mental illness is to give up on the quote unquote, tough love. That is bullshit. Tough love is bullshit. How about trying smart love, or even kind love? There's an idea. My mom tried to treat me with tough love. She tried to treat by polar disorder with truck tough love back when I was like fourteen, kick me out on the streets. It didn't work. None of it worked. It didn't cure my bi polar disorder. He created more disorders, made things much worse. And people say, well, what did you expect her to do? Well, I expect her to take me to fucking hospital, get me help from her doctor. It was fourteen, for Fuck's sake. What else would you do? Of course you take your kid there. You know she took me there once when I was younger. The doctor said, HMM, next time I will see your mom by herself. You don't have to come anyway. I got the boot at fourteen because of quote unquote, tough love. So obviously it doesn't work. If you love somebody, just love them, help them, give them a hug, tell them you'll be there for them, tell them you won't abandon them. There's are lots of cool things you can do for loved ones who have mental illnesses in two thousand and eighteen. So give it a shot. Make some resolutions to not be a Dick and help those who need help the most. Now remember, of course, those are resolutions for quote unquote normal people, like healthy people, not for those of us who are sick. I'm not saying don't be a Dick, but yeah, don't be a deck. Obviously, most people that have a disorder are not judgmental of others that have similar disorders because we know how it feels. We have empathy for that. But yeah, it's important to remind people that think they're healthy. They think they're above it. You know, they have sicknesses. They got the Gout, they get asthma, they got the diabetes, of the cancer they I mean, we just have a different thing. So, you know, got to remind them that we can't get sick. We do look normal. Our normal is different than your normal. So give us a break and tough love is bullshit and cut it with the gas lighting. No more gas lighting. So there are some awesome things coming up. Through a podcasting group on Facebook, I met a gentleman who introduced me to a friend of his who I'm going to have on this show. The friend because he just got his wife from the hospital with bipolar disorder and orderline personality disorder. So I guess they're given these out at the hospital now. No, I'm kidding, but so we're going to talk to him about what it's like to be the family member of somebody that has both bipolar and borderline. That's going to be neat. Also, the guy who connected this has a podcast called come to the table, which is a faith based podcast I'm going to check out. I'm going to be a guest on that. We're going to talk about a lot of interesting things probably I'm going to talk about my loss of faith and to see where we can come together and find a happy medium on that, because I'm agnostic at best, atheists a lot. So that'd be fun and that, gentlemen, and also hook me up with a popular radio DJ in the Ohio area, I believe, and that dudes got bipolar. He's been on the local media kind of like as a local mental health warrior kind of Guy, so I'd like to have him on. I think that's going to happen as well. So there's going to be a lot of cool stuff in the first month and a half or so and look forward to having you here on the twitter live stream and you guys here in the headphones on the podcast. I can't promise that it'll be more consistent on a schedule because, like I said, I don't really record or publish any of this shit when I'm not feeling well, so it's not like you can ever see it me here bawling, crying things like that. Not Right, not right for me anyway. But Shit, man, two thousand and eighteen has to be better than two thousand and seventeen. was so much crazy extra work in two thousand and seventeen. I just want some stability, some love. I want some more hugs. And two thousand and eighteen and I...

...guess we'll just keep pushing this little brand thing, my little fucking twitter and Youtube experiment, and just I'll take that as it is. I like a hobby. It's good hobby to have and let me get it out right. All right then, happy two thousand and eighteen. We'll see you soon. And here's my buddy ray ray as old time friend of mine, like my longest friend, probably since the sixth grade, seventh grade, and used to play together in band and he still makes music. So the music you hear in the background is Ray levus. He's not big on like social media, so you can't find him, but I do want to thank him. I appreciate him and listen to this music on the way out. This is going to be the kind of a theme sound of the Johnny emotions bipolar sound show thing. Two Thousand and eighteen. All right, mostly so I can get on the spotify. spotify will not let me on with any of that unlicensed music. Dig, dig, all right, cool bit. You guys have a great two thousand and eighteen. Stay safe. I'm glad we made it this far. You've made it this far, you can make it. You know, few more hours. Don't go doing anything crazy tomorrow. It's not a special celebration day to go kill yourself or anything like that. Hold tight, make it to the second and then we'll talk. All right, cool. If you've liked what you heard, subscribe on Apple podcast via Itunes and join us at bipolar stylecom. Thanks for listening.

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